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Asta / Aastha's avatar

Wow, this is me. I lost my mom to cancer. I stopped giving a shit about everything after that. I used outfits and getting dressed to deal with my grief. And it helped. And it still helps. Thanks for writing this.

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Fanny Adams's avatar

I’m so sorry about your mom. It took me a long time to be able to even think about getting dressed without getting totally stressed out but eventually I was able to face it and it really did (does) help.

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Jenny Power's avatar

A beautifully personal piece Fanny, which resonates hugely with me having lost my dad over 2 years ago. Grief is personal and lonely but it can also unite. I see you x

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Fanny Adams's avatar

It’s so lonely! I’m sorry for your loss, it will be two years for me in August, hard to believe that much time has already passed.

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Reiko Megan's avatar

Thank you for sharing this, Fanny! I’m so sorry for your loss. The photos of your dad are so special. I hope you’re finding joy in this Substack. I’m certainly getting joy from reading it!

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Fanny Adams's avatar

Thank you. It has been a source of joy these past few months. Thank you for reading!

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Jennifer's avatar

This resonates so deeply with me. My mom died of cancer almost 2 years ago. You captured all the complexities beautifully ❤️

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Fanny Adams's avatar

Thank you Jennifer, I’m sorry for your loss. 💙 It’s so hard to put grief into words, I’m glad you were able to connect with the piece.

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@missedda's avatar

Thank you for sharing, sorry for your loss, grief is a terribly painful thing. Do love the photos of your dad, especially the one of the white knit sweater, very very cool!

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Fanny Adams's avatar

Grief is a wild ride, that’s for sure. I wish we still had that sweater! So many good pics of my dad and mom wearing it.

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Wallis Jewelry Connoisseur's avatar

Jesus is carrying you. I know it’s hard. My Mother’s anniversary is coming up in May.

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Wallis Jewelry Connoisseur's avatar

Jesus is carrying you. My Mom passed in 2019 and I still get anxious and tearful.

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